Leaving the House After Potty Training: Practical Tips to Feel Confident

One of the biggest worries parents have after potty training is leaving the house. At home, everything feels manageable - the toilet is nearby, routines are familiar, and accidents feel easier to handle. But the thought of outings, car journeys, shops, or playdates can suddenly feel overwhelming.

You might find yourself asking:

• What if they have an accident while we’re out?

• What if there’s no toilet nearby?

• Should I put a nappy back on just in case?

This fear can quietly keep families housebound far longer than necessary, even when potty training is going well.

Why Leaving the House Feels So Hard

After potty training, your toddler is still learning to manage new situations. Being out of the house adds lots of extra challenges:

• Distractions that make it harder to notice body cues

• Unfamiliar toilets

• Delays getting to the toilet in time

• A parent feeling anxious (which toddlers often pick up on)

It’s completely normal to feel nervous — but staying home too long can actually slow confidence, both for you and your child.

Start Small and Build Up

You don’t need to jump straight into a full day out. Start with short, predictable outings:

• A quick walk around the block

• A short car journey

• A visit to a familiar place

These small trips help your toddler practise using their new skills outside the home, without overwhelming them.

Go to the Toilet Before You Leave

This sounds obvious, but it’s one of the most effective habits you can build. Make using the toilet part of your leaving-the-house routine, just like putting on shoes or grabbing keys.

Avoid asking if they need to go — instead, calmly state:
“It’s time to use the toilet before we go out.”

If they don't manage to go for a wee before you leave, try to remember what time they last used the toilet. They will likely need to go for another wee around 2 hours from then, so this maybe whilst you are out. 

Dress for Success

Clothing matters when you’re out. Choose:

• Easy pull-down trousers or leggings

• Elastic waistbands

• No buttons, zips, or dungarees

The easier it is for your toddler to manage their clothes, the more confident they’ll feel when they need to go.

Expect Accidents (and Stay Calm)

Accidents outside the house are normal — especially in the early days. They don’t mean potty training has failed.

Pack a small change bag with:

• Spare clothes

• Wipes

• A wet bag

If an accident happens, stay calm and matter-of-fact. The less emotional weight it carries, the quicker your toddler regains confidence.

Avoid Going Back to Nappies

It can be tempting to use a nappy or pull-up “just for outings,” but this often sends mixed signals and can slow progress.

If your toddler was ready to be nappy-free at home, they’re capable of learning to manage outings too — with support and preparation.

Remind your child that there are toilet they can use whilst they are away from home - some children don't realise there are toilets at the supermarket and think they need to hold it until getting home. 

If where you are going does not have access to a toilet you'll need to plan for how they'll go for a wee in this situation. My favourite tool in these situations is the Whizzer - a portable toilet small enough to fit in your bag. Use the affiliate code 'ESTHERALLEN' for 10% off your purchase. 

If they haven't been to the toilet in a while and you think they may need to go, then take them to the toilet with you. You can go to the toilet and show them that it's okay to use the toilet whilst out and it may prompt them to ask to go as well. 

Before you leave to go home, it's a good idea to take them to the toilet in the same way you did before leaving home. 

Confidence Comes With Practice

The more opportunities your toddler has to practise being out and about, the easier it becomes. Each successful outing builds confidence, for both of you.

Leaving the house after potty training isn’t about perfection. It’s about learning together, one trip at a time.

If You’re Still Preparing or Want a Smoother Start…

If you haven’t started potty training yet — or you’re still building confidence before removing nappies,  preparation makes a huge difference.

My free guide, “5 Things to Do Before Starting Potty Training,” walks you through the simple steps that help reduce stress, accidents, and anxiety later on, especially when it comes to outings.